Ok, the jury is in.

It’s official.

I cannot STAND whiners and complainers.

One of the major influencers for me to spend more (or less) time with someone is to the extent that person exhibits a negative or defeatist attitude .. or if they practice the power of positive expectancy.

It’s incredible how many people expect or assume that things won’t go their way .. and then they’re disappointed and surprised when they turn out to be right.

This is the mentality of victims and losers, and something that has no place in my world.

It’s something that I’ve never tolerated since I had a very powerful “a-ha!” about a decade ago.  Truth be told, part of the breakthrough I had was the realization that I was one of the best whiners and complainers the world had seen.

It was one of those things that I had never been conscious of, until I was reading a magazine that spoke about negative attitude, and suggested that you keep track of how many negative thoughts you had about other people, things and situations.

I did this for a few days, and was shocked at what I found.

When I spent a few days actually being conscious of when I thought something negative, or said something negative, or was expecting something negative to happen, I was astonished.  I was doing it dozens of times a day, and had never been aware of it.

This was part of my journey, and doing this simple exercise helped me become aware of it.

Around that same time, I read Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.  If you’ve read the book already, you know that the underlying “secret” of the book is that what you focus your thoughts and attention on is what you create and expand in your life.

These 2 things came together for me, and instantly caused me to become much more aware of when I was being negative.  What it also did was made me realize how many people I spent time with that were constantly negative, judgmental, and chose to be victims instead of in control of their lives.

 

Being Deliberate Changed Everything For Me

I decided to start being deliberate about who I spent my time with, who I learned from, and what I focused my attention on.  Coincidentally (or not), my income started to explode, my life became a lot more fun, and I think I became a lot easier to be around as well.

I would say that this shift in my thinking and attitude is the single biggest reason that I’ve been able to change my entire world – not just financially, but also with the many important relationships I have in my life.

The best way to describe this shift is what I call the Power of Positive Expectancy. 

After working with thousands of entrepreneurs, investors and business owners, I’ve figured out that I can determine the likelihood of someone’s success in business with only a few key indicators.

One of them is their practice of Positive Expectancy.

What do I mean by this?

 

Words are very powerful,
and what you say matters. 

When I listen carefully to the way that someone speaks, and I observe what they’re focusing their attention on, I can quickly determine what path they’re on, and whether they’re going to create and attract success into their life, or more struggle and misery.

Let me give you a couple of examples of this.

As you may know, we recently completed a very successful launch of my signature program, The Trusted Authority Formula.

We had millions of people become aware of this program, and hundreds of thousands of people view our videos, training and materials.  The amount of positive feedback and gratitude was overwhelming.

But what I found interesting was that, as always, there were those people who acted like no matter how much value and free training they got, they somehow deserved or were entitled to more.

They literally acted like it was MY job to hand them everything they needed and wanted, and that somehow I was responsible for their happiness.

I spent a LOT of time (and resources) creating a very powerful series of free training for people to enjoy, what many people said was the best training series they’d ever seen (and which many people said was better than things they had paid for).

It actually made me laugh several times out loud, just because I could not believe that there are people with attitudes like this out there.

The truth is, I felt sorry for these people because they are never going to be successful.

 

Here’s a little secret:
The world owes you NOTHING. 

You don’t deserve other people’s value, help or support .. until you EARN it.  Part of earning it is having the right attitude of gratitude, openness and positive expectancy.

Until someone really “gets” this and absorbs it – and practices it – they’ll wander around feeling left out, screwed and defeated.  But when it does sink in, your entire attitude and view changes .. and magically, you begin to get the things you need and want!

So back to the training, and another example.  When we started the program last week, even though the overwhelming majority of people in the program were excited, grateful and positive, there were a small handful of people who had nothing but complaints.

The training wasn’t going fast enough.  The website didn’t work (even though almost everyone else was using it fine).  That they weren’t getting what they needed (even though we hadn’t even started the main program).

Thankfully, this was less than 2% of the people in the program .. but seriously, what a HORRIBLE way to live your life, being such a negative thinker and energy sucker!

Wow!

My friend Harv Eker has a lot of great sayings, but this is my favorite one:

 

How do you anything is how you do everything.

Amen, brother!

What’s amazing to me is that people who are like this never stop to realize that NO ONE wants to spend time with this kind of negative energy and attitude.

So that’s what I’m hoping this article does – to help a few more people out there with crappy attitudes to think about the impact they’re having not just on themselves, but on others in the world.

In today’s world, we have a crisis of leadership.  There’s SO much negative attitude and  entitlement mentality, it can be depressing if you let it get to you.

OR.. you can be part of the solution.  You can choose to be optimistic, open-minded, and willing to be responsible for your results.  You can choose to have Positive Expectancy, and just expect things to go your way.

EXPECT good things to happen to you.  They will, simply because the more you focus on positive outcomes, the more that you’ll manifest for yourself.

Life is 10% what happens to you … and 90% how you react to what happens.

This “success attitude” is infectious.  Try it for just a few days, and you’ll see people in your life start to notice it and react to you differently.  Don’t be surprised if they push back, joke about it or tease you.  Don’t let it get to you.

I would LOVE to hear what you think of this article – whether you agree or not – so please post a comment below and tell me whether you practice positive expectancy, or if you think this is all just “woo woo” nonsense.